An April afternoon in 1956, I walked down Pigeon Hill where snowmelt still made the ground mushy beneath the trees, my sneakers sodden by the time I reached Betsy’s house, the last house on the road that dead-ended at the railway tracks from Boston.  I knocked on the front door, badly in need of paint and blackened by soot from the railway trestle.  I had come to see if Betsy could come out to play.  We didn’t say “hang out” then, though that is what my thirteen-year-old-self intended, for I had no particular plan other than a need for a friend to spend time with on a Saturday afternoon. Finally, more dressed-up than I had ever seen her, Betsy’s mother answered my knock. From within I heard a gathering of adult voices.

Betsy wouldn’t be coming out that day, Mrs. Watkins said.  She was being married.  Through the yellow hallway I could see into the living room lit with April light.  Betsy wore a white chiffon dress. Her older sister, Barbara, wore what looked like silk flowers in her hair.  There too were Mr. and Mrs. Purcell, recently divorced, sitting with their son Walter, my neighbor, who lived at the top of Pigeon Hill.  Walter was a thin boy, a year older than Betsy and I, and he was smart, very smart.  I remember that he wanted to be an atomic scientist.  We didn’t know any other kid who wanted to be an atomic scientist.

Thirteen and pregnant, though exceptionally young, was not unheard of in 1956.  Finishing high school was out of the question.  By the time Betsy would have been a senior, she had four children.  Walter got a job at a locksmith’s shop. Because he was resourceful, he eventually managed the place, and who knows, perhaps he ended up owning the shop or a string of shops.  What he didn’t do was pursue a career in atomic energy.  And that was tragic, my parents said, shaking their heads at the news.  What a loss for that young man because Betsy got pregnant. All the adults said, “Betsy got pregnant.” No one used the plural for pregnancy in 1956. Only girls got pregnant, usually by their own fault, as if, like Greek goddesses, they sprung children from their heads.  Boys, well, boys were unlucky.  At least Walter, even if coerced by his parents, at least Walter married Betsy.  No one discussed what career path Betsy would fail to walk.

(Our Junior High 9^th grade photo.  Both Betsy and I are shown)

Mine was a blue-collar, rather middle-class neighborhood.  I had a group of four fairly close girlfriends. I was the only one who would attend a four-year college.  Three of the four were pregnant before finishing their senior year. No one talked about abortions, not that they didn’t happen. They would be reserved for girls from more affluent families, not to mention the sudden six-month vacations in the sophomore or junior years of high school.

Here at my seventy-fourth year, these are memories of my adolescence.  It is not intended to suggest that this grandmother was more virtuous than her friends, just luckier. In spite of luck, or the lack of it, what I had in common with all teenagers who were sexually curious was the awareness that we were bad girls.  Only bad girls let boys touch them.  With a flashlight under the covers, we read Peyton Place, arousing our hormonal shame, eager to find a common badness in books that portrayed our summers on Cape Cod.  Because we were all bad girls, we sought out other bad girls to befriend.  And the bad boys could pick us out from a crowd of girl scouts selling cookies.  We knew nothing of the complexity of sexual lives.  Nothing about conjugal intimacy and certainly nothing about pleasure or mutual consent.

Where could we go for information other than to the bad girls who would talk? At twelve-years-old, I found brown spots on my panties.  Had I accidentally pooped?  Eventually the brown was more like blood, and I was certain I was dying from my insides.  This information I would take to my mother.  Wearing a sad look of resignation, as if I had told her I failed another Latin test, she gave me a little pamphlet that explained menstruation along with a blue box of Kotex, those bulky gauze bandages I had often seen in the linen closet and assumed were for really severe injuries.  Yes, I was that naïve.  There was no sex education in public schools.  Some girls may have been luckier to have mothers willing to discuss sex and puberty.  Looking back, I wonder if that sad look came from my mother’s realization that my days would be numbered until I too would be a mother, a celebration only in spite of her awareness that I would endure having sex. In 1971, The Boston Free Press published Our Bodies Ourselves.  It cost 35 cents.  A little late for me. By then I was twenty-eight years old with a two-year-old.

In the 1960’s, my college years, we had the pill, and of course it was a young woman’s responsibility to take it, for if she had sex that ended in pregnancy, it would still be her fault.  Teenage pregnancies dropped only inasmuch as those girls could afford to have access to the pill. Generally, it was the drug of choice for college girls and affluent white women.

My little memoir could end here, but not without one more memory of April 25, 2004.  The Bush administration, strangling access to reproductive health choices, reignited rage we hadn’t felt since the Vietnam era.  It was as if the taste of something bitter threw us hurtling back through time to the sour years before Roe vs Wade.  Here in Seattle, I joined my sixty-year-old lady friends, and we piled on planes that flew us back to Washington, D.C. to march.

“I can’t believe we have to do this again,” my friend sighed, as we buckled our seat belts.  All the gray hair in that airplane, you would think we were going to a convention of quilters.  But no, we were about a more serious fabric.  We arrived late on a Thursday, and Friday spent hours doing the touristy things one does in D.C.  In every museum, around every memorial, there were clusters of women our age, women in comfortable slacks and tennis shoes.

By Friday we heard each other mutter, “Where are the young women?”  We had our signs ready: Abortion Rights are Women’s Rights.  But where were the young women who couldn’t remember, but certainly must know?  Where were the young women?

The morning of the march arrived, (eventually a million-citizens strong). We walked from our hotel toward the Mall, and there we spotted streams of loaded busses pulling in from Smith and Barnard and Mt. Holyoke and NYU and Brown and Yale.  Out poured young women.  Out poured young men.  They wore t-shirts depicting clothes hangers, the symbol for self-mutilating abortions.   They had signs too:  Bush Get out of My Bush!   We sixty-year-olds blushed, we giggled, we wept.

I could tell you that the Swift Boat accusations against John Kerry were what tossed me into the drink that presidential election of 2004. But in spite of my progressive leanings, I will honestly say by October of that year, the Democrats crucified the English language as much as did the Republicans. Orwell was churning with the worms in his grave.

Those of us who were English teachers hung our heads in mourning, not only for the imminent death of our nation, but for the early demise of the English language. I felt helpless, wordless, as if my tongue were excised as much as my vote. Yet before I slipped beneath the stones, I passively struck out with a poem. It was October, and so my ears turned again to Robert Frost’s

O hushed October morning mild,

Thy leaves have ripened to the fall;

Tomorrow’s wind, if it be wild,

Should waste them all.

The crows above the forest call;

Tomorrow they may form and go.

O hushed October morning mild,

Begin the hours of this day slow. . . .

Just typing the poem, was a salve for my offended ears. I printed 50 copies, slipped them into a plastic folder, wrote Take One, and duct taped the folder to the wrought iron fence around my yard. The poems were quickly taken; I suppose passersby assumed the house was for sale. How were they to know the folder of Frost’s sonnet was my non-violent protest not only against a nasty election but against the demise of our language. Instinctively, I felt if I could remind others how beautiful words could be, they too would rise up against the cacophony of cronies.

October passed. The election failed to win the president I would have chosen. The Iraq war showed no sign of ending, and I stumbled across another Frost poem, November, that, if read closely, clearly indicates Frost was writing in opposition to war. December? Well my daughter mentioned how tacky the duct taped folder looked on the fence, so I removed it. In January, neighbors and folks I didn’t know (but who frequented the same coffee houses), asked me, “Where was December’s poem?”

Voila! After 30 years teaching high school English, forcibly stuffing poems down reluctant throats, I had finally an audience who wanted poetry. On January 1st, I replaced the plastic folder with a wooden box my brother built for me, the Poetry Box, and in it I put Emily Dickinson’s Hope is a Thing with Feathers.

Thirteen years later, I still approach the end of each month to consider what poem I will select for the following month. Over 300 poems are taken from the box each month. Never once has a crumpled poem landed on the parking strip. I have received notes of thanks, interviews on radio and newspapers, a little envelope with $5 from a teacher who knows what it cost to Xerox copies to disseminate to her students. And for those who do not live close enough to get a poem from the box, I have compiled a list of 44 emails to send out the poem, and usually a little something about why I chose the poem or some authorial background.

This month is February, a month I think of well in advance to choose a love poem. There are so many, and what fun to read and reread, to think which one feels right for this year. This February I did not use a love poem. After the first two weeks of Donald Trump’s presidency, as a good many Americans flail their arms to stay afloat in democracy, I turned to Wendell Berry’s Peace Among Wild Things. When despair for the world grows in me and I wake in the night at the least sound in fear of what my life and my children’s lives may be, I go and lie down where the wood drake rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.

Within hours, my email fills with letters, “Thank you Mary, for the poem. I needed that.” I wasn’t surprised, but why is it true? Why do we need poetry? It is not a miracle drug. It will not cure cancer. Edna St. Vincent Millay wrote “Love is not all: it is not meat nor drink/ Nor slumber nor a roof against the rain…. Yet many a man is making friends with death / Even as I speak, for lack of love alone.” We can say the same thing about poetry. Poetry might not save the world but …What is there about a poem that helps us bear the weight of the world?

For the writer, the process takes her away to the shelter of her imagination. She puts herself in a garden or along a seashore. With the gift of remembrance, she sees the first daffodils blooming or hears waves licking the sand where her toes warm with each step. Escape? Yes, but in the process of getting away from the world, she returns to it with a greater understanding, as if she has larger hands with which to hold the worlds’ cares. Poetry gives her the confidence of quiet power — the greatest power known by the most courageous people like Dr. Martin Luther King or Ghandi.

For the reader, he too takes a walk from strife. In despair one feels there is no control. It is as if an old thermometer has broken on a tile floor and beads of mercury scatter everywhere. It is dangerous stuff, but there is no gathering it up. Poetry is concise; it has form and shape. The very economy of a poem informs the reader that life can be gathered up. You can carry a poem in your pocket, take it out when waiting for the bus. The bus may be delayed or not come at all, but you have those lines. You might memorize them. They lull in the music of their meters: Whose woods these are I think I know/ His house is in the village though/ He will not see me stopping here…

And there is the conclusion to Wendell Berry’s poem.

I come into the presence of still water. And I feel above me the day-blind stars waiting with their light. For a time I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.

There is hope. The poem asks nothing of the reader but to hang in until the final lines that bring understanding of the world by asking beauty to step up and hold us in her palm.

And why does one poem a month, taken from a box make a difference, when any one of us could open a book and read a hundred poems, or surf the internet to find lots of sites for a poem? I can only guess, but here goes.

“Where was December’s Poem?” Having shared in the expected by two months of a poem each month, people like the anticipation of a gift. More gifts would lessen the gratitude. One gift, thirty days apart, makes the waiting worth it. Few people who take the poem know me. I do not know them, but we are a community of feeling. I have had many positive responses to that poetry box, but here are two of my favorites. One showed up on a blog I stumbled across about Seattle neighborhoods. My poetry box was discussed in the context of Capitol Hill and the writer called in a “carefully curated poetry box.” A curator is someone who consciously cares for art. The phrase suggests caring, caring for the poem, caring for those who might read it.

The second compliment was by an 8 year old boy who had to write for his school class about his neighborhood and what made it a community. He chose to interview me about the poetry box. Though intended by me as a soft political protest, for him it was the glue of his community. I have seen many children over the years take a poem from the box and read it, either alone or to their parent walking them to school.

These are tough times for those of us who identify as progressives. We are fearful for what we might lose at the whim of a president who has a vocabulary of a drunken sailor, whose depth of articulation goes no farther than the number of characters allowed in a tweet. He is an office holder, albeit a rather powerful one, but he is not the people. He is not the voice of the people. As long as there is poetry the language of the people will have form and melody. The people are the poem. The poem is the people. Walt Whitman knew it, and his words will endure long after any readily regurgitated hate.

Let us write our poems.  We will write them in journals, on sidewalks, on the posters we carry in marches for our democracy.  Let us read poems, and in the reading hang our livelihood on concise words that lead us to understanding, the penultimate destination before transcendence.